Love

As all of you are my fellow human beings, I think all of you can understand the desire, especially those that are single like me, to find a person of the opposite gender that we are emotionally and intimately attached to which you may wish to spend your life with. Not including members of your immediate family of course (I do not believe in incest, in case you are wondering). What I am talking about of course, is having a girlfriend (I am not gay or bisexual, just to keep it clear).

The more I look at my friends who are already attached, the more envious am I of their position. How wonderful it is to have a girlfriend who you know want to spend time with you, worry for you, talk to you, love you and for you to want to do all the same things for her. That in the future you may be able to start a family and grow old together. Oh how sweet and beautiful it would to be in love!

Despite all these romantic notions that I attached to being in love, I do realise that love is never as we envision it to be. So many of the couples I know have broken up so easily in less than a year that I seriously doubt whether being attached means being truly in love or just a match of convenience to deal with peer pressure or to satisfy one's ego. Perhaps I am too young to know what love really is, but I think neither do those who have claimed they have fallen in love at my age.

Then again, the fool is actually not them but me. How would I know what love is if I do not explore what it really is? I have always hoped that my first girlfriend would be my last and that we would marry and live happily ever after. The more that I think of it however, the more naive and ignorant I feel I am. Maybe my notion of love and relationships is unrealistic and thus severely narrows my own choice of a potential girlfriend since I am constantly for someone that would fit my view of an ideal soulmate. My dear softball captain and vice-captain were right after all: I should be in a relationship for the sake of being in one!

Juvenile it may sound, it is perhaps what has been the right way to learn what is true love all along. Generations of puppy lovers couldn't be THAT wrong after all. Sometimes the more we try to have a complicated explanation the more we find that the simpler explanations are better. Therefore now I have decided that I should have girlfriend, though she may or may not be the one I spend the rest of my life with. Being attached should be a litmus test of whether love truly exist, whether a couple is ready to go the extra mile. It is not just a stage in a permanent relationship, but a test of many in a fluid one.

The problem though still remains: How am I going to get a girlfriend!?

P.S: Any interested girls are welcome to find true love with me... : )

Quote of the day

"I believe love is primarily a choice and only sometimes a feeling. If you want to feel love, choose to love and be patient."

-Real Live Preacher, RealLivePreacher.com Weblog, December 16, 2002