Seeing love across the genders

I just had a class gathering this Saturday, and it was a most pleasant experience to catch up with my classmates beyond my immediate clique of which I go out on a quite consistent basis. What made it more rewarding was that I got to sit with three girls that are not in my immediate clique. Having talk mainly with guys for most of my life, it was quite a revealing experience to just sit with girls and learn about their views and experiences. And in contrast to what Einstein said about women being impossible to understand, I find that both genders seem to be remarkably similar.

As our society becomes more open, the gender roles which seemed to be rooted into our culture has gradually diminished, which makes both genders remarkably similar in both our outlook in life and love. Having talked to the girls, I realized guys gossip and bitch as much, if not even more than the girls. The things they talk about are remarkably similar: members of the opposite gender, their miserable lives, how the lives of others compare to theirs and entertainment to name a few.

Perhaps due to the fact that the girls and I treat each other and friends, it was much more easier to talk about their outlook on their love lives. It may also be due to the fact that two of the girls having broken up, we can relate to each other better since we are all now on the open market, waiting for a lucky buyer. Which reminds me how uncomfortable I felt talking to them sometimes since I worry about their boyfriends finding me threatening (my handsome looks... nah), or worst of all, I end up falling in love with them, which thankfully did not come to pass.

But I digress. The most important point I discovered is that both the girls and me, while sometimes having dreams about our ideal romance and having crushes which were just plain infaturation and not love, are just looking for that elusive spark between the two. More often than not though, unfortunately, the spark is only on one side. Or as one of the girls relate, she had this spark with this guy she met in Uni. Sadly though the guy did not have the spark for her. The most tragic part though, is that when the guy finally had this spark for her, by then her spark has already died down. A chance missed. Not so she claims, since the more she sees of him the less attracted she was. It was spark that was destined to die out I guess. If you read my previous posts, you can see that I have a remarkably similar experience.

Now that I think of it, our relationships with both genders can actually be compared. You may have many friends of the same gender, but it is only with some of them that you can become best friends with. With the opposite gender, you can have many friends, but there are only a few you are totally comfortable with. What makes it even more difficult though, is that instead of just being best friends in the case of the same gender, there is this only one of the opposite gender in which you want to spend the rest of your life with.

P.S: In case you are wondering, I will reassure you that I am comfortable in my own masculinity despite talking with girls like long lost sisters... Though I wonder if I have a chance with the girls... Hmmmm....

Quote of the day

"A relationship is like a rose, How long it lasts, no one knows; Love can erase an awful past, Love can be yours, you'll see at last; To feel that love, it makes you sigh, To have it leave, you'd rather die; You hope you've found that special rose, 'Cause you love and care for the one you chose."

-Rob Cella